Writing Through Grief

For many of us, writing is cathartic. These moms use their blogs to process (and heal) in the aftermath of a parent’s most painful experience.

Blogs are incredible vehicles for exploring our passions and finding our voices. They can also be powerful tools for healing in the face of trauma; for many of us, the act of writing is a cathartic one.

These brave moms are blogging their way through one of life’s more traumatic losses: the loss of a child. Calling themselves babyloss blogs, they provide insight for those of us who have never experienced this unique pain and support for other parents starting to navigate the same grief — along with hope that life does go on, and happiness is still possible.

C is for Crocodile

2014 BlogHer Voices of the Year winner Timaree started C is for Crocodile to chronicle her pregnancy, never imagining that after three years and five months, she would instead be chronicling her son’s fight with juvenile myelomonocytic leukemia — an incredibly rare form of cancer. She blogged through his treatment and now writes her way through the aftermath, as in this piece published during the recent BlogHer conference:

I grabbed a glass of champagne, tucked myself up on a set of stairs, and I watched from Planet I Miss My Son as people strolled by, stopped, read, dug around in their bags for tissues, and moved on.

She shares the blog with wife Jodi, and together they’re documenting the journey to their new normal with honesty and eloquence.

Expecting the Unexpected

Connecticut midwife Meghan was pregnant in March 2014 when she learned first that her daughter had down syndrome, and then a potentially fatal kidney defect. On Expecting the Unexpected, she does not blunt the edge of what happened next:

The story of my daughter began with a positive pregnancy test and ended as I held her in my arms as she died six hours after birth.

Her blog gives her a space to mourn and process the loss as she works not only to heal, but to re-enter what became a painful profession.

The Mourning After Natasha

Natasha was diagnosed with a brain tumor at age seven, and passed away five years later. Like Timaree and Meghan, mom Suzanne turned to words to help deal with the pain of a devastating loss. In her latest post, she explains why she’d prefer that you didn’t call her child a “hero”:

To those she loved and trusted, she didn’t soldier on with a smile on her face as the hero-philes would have it. She mourned the injustice of the good health that she had irrevocably lost, noting that her friends who had morphed into gangly preteens got to play a brisk game of basketball.

Along with her blog, Suzanne helps other grieving parents feel less alone with regular pieces on The Huffington Post, Mothering, the San Francisco Chronicle, and many more.

Hang Your Hopes from Trees

The blogger behind Hang Your Hopes from Trees began writing in the aftermath of a traumatic miscarriage:

This is not a goldfish! My head raged. This is your baby! Pick it up! Hold it, you will NEVER get another chance! Another voice rang in, steady and calm. Don’t touch the baby, it said. The baby is gone, has been gone a long time. If you pick it up, what will you do with it? Will you ever be able to let it go? Will you be scarred, more deeply than you already are?

At, Hang Your Hopes from Trees she writes to forgive herself — and her body. This month, she opens a new chapter, learning to reconcile her joy at the birth of a daughter with the lingering pain of her loss.

Sadly, these four women are not alone; there are countless other bloggers using babyloss blogs to write through their grief, including:

These women tell their painful truths to help themselves heal and to keep the memories of their children alive — and in doing so, they help countless other parents who find themselves crushed and bewildered after the loss of a child.


Missing out on the latest WordPress.com developments? Enter your email below to receive future announcements direct to your inbox. An email confirmation will be sent before you will start receiving notifications - please check your spam folder if you don't receive this.

Join 17,985,169 other followers

Michelle W.

117 Comments

Comments are closed.

  1. remembervictoria9

    Remembervictoria9, is my blog about our daughter Victoria who passed away at 9 months old from a rare degenerative condition. We miss and love Victoria always.

    Liked by 5 people

  2. Lenanoid

    Reading the stories of their loss had me a recall of my mother’s death in 2012. I didn’t write the coping stage, but I wrote once , in my blog entry, of how I felt: http://lenanoid.wordpress.com/2012/09/27/your-pain-my-agony/

    Writing poems had helped me on overcoming the pain, since her loss.

    Liked by 6 people

  3. BWLEtravel

    Unfathomably heart-wrenching.

    Liked by 4 people

  4. ProjectRefinedLife.wordpress.com

    Blogging is way for me channel my hurt and new found passions after losing my son due to a drunk driver.

    Liked by 5 people

  5. GDAssociatesNY

    We greatly appreciate and identify with this blog post. Writing is cathartic, and for some, the only way to honestly express what they are thinking and feeling in times of grief.

    Thanks.

    Liked by 6 people

  6. Ginamarie Austin

    Even though I didn’t lose a child but I lost a husband who was my best friend and lover to cancer. I started blogging about finding my own two feet again without him. Instead I noticed that I have been writing more and more about my grief. It has been very therapeutic for me.

    Liked by 5 people

  7. Mariam Tsaturyan

    For me writing is the best way to let go of extreme bad emotions, whether it’s anger, depression, sadness, or something else. Writing gives me equilibrium.

    Liked by 5 people

  8. nivaladiva

    Thank you for highlighting these wonderful blogs. I just became a contributing editor to ModernLoss.com and am looking for essays on grief and writers who write well about loss, so this is very helpful. Writing through grief is one of the most cathartic and self-healing experiences ever. I know it has helped me heal.

    Liked by 3 people

  9. margaretmathews

    standing ovation to all these moms.I admire their courage.hats off

    Liked by 2 people

  10. Kendall

    I started my blog http://notesfromasouthernkitchen.com, prior to my mom’s death. It began as stories that helped refresh her memory and brought her tremendous joy. When she died, I stopped writing for almost a year, now the blog is different, but still holds a place of special memories when I think about my mom’s last couple of years on earth. I have found my joy in writing again.

    Liked by 2 people

  11. margaretmathews

    i know i experienced issues with folks,and it is what tugged at my hand to write.way to go to all who find courage in writing in the face of pain

    Liked by 2 people

  12. Rambling Rose

    My heart goes out to these moms … Writing keeps the memories alive. As Helen Keller said .what we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.

    Liked by 2 people

  13. ashokbhatia

    Writing indeed helps in internal cleaning and healing. Thanks for this post!

    Liked by 2 people

  14. kcg1974

    Blogging gave me a new lease on life. It opened my world to share with others what I did not even know. Happier now than I’ve ever been. To all my readers and Word Press, bless you forevermore.

    Liked by 3 people

  15. goteamcharlie

    Writing is cathartic. A way of expressing the trauma. I write about my son Charlie http://www.goteamcharlie.wordpress.com about coming to terms with his autism and going through his treatment for cancer.

    Liked by 3 people

  16. A Cain

    I had a stillbirth at 7 months, a little boy. I had a miscarriage afterwards at 3 months. As I waited for my first living child to be born, I worried through each month of the pregnancy. My daughter was born and has grown to be a wonderful adult. I also had a son, ten and a half weeks premature, who has grown to be a considerate, caring adult. Those first losses were not easy to deal with, but somehow we cope with what life throws at us.

    Now, I am grieving again, for a young horse which I knew for eleven years from the day she was born, to a month ago. My dreams and goals for my next three years had included working with her. One moment I am fine, and the next minute the devastation is back. I know I will get through it. Life goes on and each of us has something to contribute.

    Liked by 4 people

  17. alenaslife

    I felt so much love form the blogging world after my father’s death in September 2012. I truly felt lifted and carried through that time. https://alenaslife.wordpress.com/2012/09/17/goodbye-dad/

    Liked by 1 person

  18. catholicguyxl

    After turning 40 I decided to blog about the lessons I learned about life. After writing about the past 20 years I felt a great amount of healing afterward. I was able process the last 2 decades of decisions that either led to pain or success.

    Liked by 2 people

  19. priyanka

    God, please give them the utmost strength that they deserve. Please always be there for them, protect them, and always pull them out of the dark. You women are warriors. Period.

    Liked by 3 people

    • ozifrog

      I didn’t realise I’d be blogging through grief when I started my blog. Whilst not in the same league as losing a loved one, the grief of infertility and pregnancy complications is so hidden, I was amazed to find such a community of strong women on here. Luckily, in this community, although some have experienced SIDS and stillbirth, there are also (complicated) happy endings. didiforget.wordpress.com . Always good to discover new blogs.

      Like

  20. mrckrett

    Hi really liked what i read i to know the pain of loss and how writing can help i write a lot to deal with grief of losing my mum
    All can say is keep writing i know i will
    Not that i can proffess anything that will be right
    Everyone has there own way of grieveing
    I just know it must be worse for a parent to lose a child
    The subject of grief interests me because i to am grieving for my dear mum the best mum in the whole world
    The people in this have my thoughts and feelings for a few moment as do all that know loss
    Because there is nothing like it
    I still struggle today
    I wish all those grieveing the best
    Thanks for reading my comment if you did

    Liked by 3 people

  21. tenaciousbitch

    Thanks for posting excerpts from babyloss blogs and providing links to these sites. I cannot imagine what it would be like to lose one of my children to cancer or whatever – especially if such had happened when they were so young like so many of these stories. It really puts everything into perspective especially when you get mad at your child like when my oldest, Rory, said some very hurtful things on his 19th birthday after announcing that he was engaged to a girl I didn’t like, who was constantly cheating on him. And he took my quasi-stunned silence to mean I was shunning her, which wasn’t the case, necessarily. But ANYWHO, I commend the courage of these women, and again, thank you for making other bloggers aware of their tragedies…:)
    TB

    Liked by 1 person

  22. Rambling

    Thank you for reminding me what a great tool writing can be to deal with emotional chaos. Here is my story about the loss of my twin sons. http://shesramblingaboutstuff.wordpress.com/2014/08/01/the-miracle-and-the-politics/

    Liked by 1 person

  23. vickieayala

    Thank you for this post. And thank you to these moms, wives, etc. who are willing to share and put out about themselves to an audience unknown to them. I hope they also know how appreciative we are for their honesty.

    A story I find incredible is that of Stephanie Nielson who was burned over 80% of her body in a plane crash with her husband. Her story about raising their children while living through the pain is amazing and I would recommend pouring over this if you have a chance: http://nieniedialogues.blogspot.com/.

    Liked by 1 person

  24. amybethspaulding

    My best friend lost her twelve year old son to a brain tumor nearly a year ago. I’m going to suggest this to her. I know she is struggling and I don’t blame her for her struggles because no parent should have to bury a child. All I want is for her to find comfort through this difficult time.

    Like

  25. Amey Fair

    As a grieving mother and also a blogger, I appreciate you highlighting these blogs. I wonder though, that you failed any grief blogs with more religious themes. I noticed that the representations were quite secular and or even more liberal in their life stance. And yet there is a large audience for Christian meditations, thoughts, pondering a about grief. I began An Atypical Miracle after my 2 year old daughter was diagnosed with Atypical Teratoid Rhabdoid brain tumor cancer 2 years ago. She has been gone now for ten long months and I have a decent readership following ‘the test of the story’. It would be nice if WordPress would give sample blogs/highlight a wider variety of grief blogs so that readership on the whole would be better represented in those options.

    Thanks for listening, Amey Fair

    Liked by 2 people

    • Michelle W.

      Amey, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story, and please, feel free to share links to any grief blogs you recommend. Any oversight of religious blogs was unintentional, and we all benefit from hearing and understanding different perspectives on loss.

      Liked by 1 person

  26. youarethegovernment

    I did that, and it turned into a book with a powerful run of messages and message themes on living with, then rising from…the choke-hold of grief. It was my therapeutic journey that walked me back to new hope, renewed thinking, and the realization that there still is more Life for me up ahead. The question to answer was ‘Did I Want It?’ That sent me on the new road to catch a new vision and walk it.

    Liked by 1 person

  27. supercondonmx

    Absolutely astounding, I’m deeply touched.Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

  28. Kay Windsor

    For almost twelve years, thirteen of us who are bereaved mothers have used writing to help us deal with our grief. Writing reflectively and sharing that writing has had health benefits, mentally and physically. We started our blog in 2011, and each of us posts not only some of the writings we have done during our time together as a writing group but new pieces too, often after we have met together for a writing retreat. Our blog is http://fartheralongbook.com
    and we have links to somel of the blogs mentioned in the post and in the comments.

    Liked by 1 person

  29. itneedstobeshared

    That is why today I have created my first blog. Not sure how it is used, but looking forward to learning

    Liked by 2 people

  30. Light : Within and Beyond

    Reblogged this on Light : Within and Beyond and commented:
    Yes indeed, blogging may bring out those pains thru which one might have gone, even the mothers who have lost their babies. It could heal the wounds in heart. One has to move forward, time passes and time heals too but blogging is sharing pains with which it reduces the intensity. I believe so.

    Liked by 3 people

  31. Yellow Mum Blog

    I wrote a blog journaling my mum’s cancer and continued writing it after her death. It really helped with the grieving process: http://yellowmumblog.wordpress.com/

    Liked by 1 person

  32. Michelle W.

    For all those chiming in with their blogs and stories — I’m so sorry for each of your losses, and so appreciate your sharing your words with us.

    Like

  33. KristinaLudwig

    Great blog post, Michelle. I admire these strong and courageous women for turning their devastating losses into something positive and helpful. Kudos to you for sharing their stories with us, and for emphasizing the amazing healing power of writing!

    Liked by 1 person

  34. chrysalaneous

    Very courageous people who have the courage to help others through in-imaginable pain. I’m certain many people will benefit from the strength it took to be alone with their words and tears long enough to share their grief.

    Liked by 1 person

  35. flippyzipflop

    I am so sorry to read of such loss… I didn’t come here to share my thoughts, but instead, look for help. My boyfriend raised 3 children on his own after his ex wife walked out on them. As his youngest son (18 years old) was approaching graduation and enlisted to go into the Marines, he drowned 5 years ago. I understand that there are several stages of the grieving process, but my boyfriend (with good reason) is still stuck in the anger phase, as he was never given an answer as to how it happened. To talk of his son brigs tears to his eyes. It is still a tremendous loss; one that I don’t think he’ll ever recover from. I was just curious to know if there were any blogs out there that help those of us trying to support our partners with such a loss. I never know what to say, or if by talking about him I’m crossing a boundary. It’s a very emotional topic but I don’t want him to think I don’t care. For his birthday, I got him in to see a reputable psychic in an attempt to connect with his son. Epic failure. She didn’t get anything right which caused even more pain. So, if you know of any blogs that could help me help him, PLEASE let me know. Again, I am so sorry for all of your pain and suffering, as no parent should ever have to lose a child.

    ~Kate

    Liked by 1 person

  36. Kate O'Brien

    Thank you Michelle. I love the comment of finding peace through writing. I’ve been striving for sense of peace this month and just posted on my blog.

    Liked by 1 person

  37. LatanyaWagner

    Blogging is a catalyst to healing the loss of a child. We are approaching our 15th year (Aug. 4) without our newborn daughter. We miss her daily, but are so thankful we were blessed with her brief life. Thankful for God’s grace, and the opportunity to share our daughter’s story through blogging.

    Liked by 1 person

  38. The FaithBook

    It’s amazing how something as simple as writing can give one a release from the hurt and pain of life, especially in the case of losing a child like these blogs do, but at the same time serve as an outlet to reach others going through the same thing you might not have ever met otherwise. Thanks for highlighting these bloggers’ bravery in sharing their experiences.

    Liked by 2 people

  39. jenlocati

    Even years after you experience a loss, it still sits with you. I reflected on the child “that might have been” in this post: http://wyswords.com/2013/03/05/the-story-of-my-super-boy/

    Liked by 1 person

  40. crazygirl20

    That was very insightful. I know when my cousin died it did help to write all my feelings out. I think it’d help my aunt to really get into blogging, but her oldest daughter just had a baby and I think that would be a better way to channel her energy and emotions into.

    Liked by 1 person

  41. Laura P. Schulman, MD, MA

    There is really no greater loss than losing a child. I have written several stories about children I have met in my lost life as a pediatrician, itself a lost child, with whom I have been close during the process of their dying. The privilege of taking care of these special children in their last years, months, weeks, days, hours….well, you learn a lot about life from these souls who are on their way out of this world, some floating away peacefully and some fighting until the last seconds of their lives. I too have had my share, and it has helped me to help the parents. I don’t wish it on anybody.

    Liked by 2 people

  42. Spirited Queen

    So touching. I have never blogged about my son whom joined the ancestors at 23 days old but makes me think I should have if only for the reason that his twin another boy survived, is 8 years old and after being through a lot loves helping people all the time…..

    Thanks sis star…

    Liked by 1 person

  43. mrsmashiter

    This couldn’t be more appropriate for me right now. I gave birth to my daughter a week ago today at 40+5 and sadly held her funeral yesterday. The pain of losing a child is like nothing I’ve ever known. I figured writing about my loss would prove a useful coping mechanism, allowing me to look back on my journey & possibly help others who find themselves in similar circumstances to me & my family.
    Love to all of those who are grieving & have lost loved ones.

    Like

  44. lovetowritewithwords

    I am not old enough to be a mother and to suffer the unbearable loss that mothers must feel upon losing a child. My heart goes out to you and I admire these bloggers’ courage and grace with which they tackled their grief through writing. At 15 years old, however, I have lost my pet guineapig. It is in no means the same loss as the loss of a child but she was like a baby to me and I can almost empathise. I wrote about her death, memories of her lifetime that are now remembered with a sad smile, and her. Writing helped my grief immensely and it was an outlet for all the emotions I was feeling. The pen and paper were the confident I needed. In this post I recall where she lived and how she died, reading it always makes me cry with tears of sadness from the loss, of happiness from the memories I have of her, and from the gratitude that overwhelms me for having the opportunity to love her. She may only be a guineapig to some but she was a part of my life and a loving companion.

    Liked by 1 person

  45. jasmineshei

    I started my blog to express my grievance and connect to others like me. I have to say it has been a tremendous help, and fired up my craving for writing. I do not express myself well verbally but I do a much better job in writing.

    Liked by 1 person

  46. ddominikwickles

    My heart goes out to each one. I am so glad they could gain even a small amount of relief from blogging.

    Liked by 1 person

  47. lorieb

    my book G9P3A3 was written to describe (and help heal from) my experience through 9 pregnancies over ten years, including three stillbirths and three miscarriages.

    Liked by 1 person

  48. Silver in the Barn

    Grief. That caught my eye because grief is omnipresent in my life. And yet I do not write about it….ever. Oddly, I know, I’ve chosen to make my blog an escape from grief – albeit temporarily- the place where I can once again feel like me without the ever present shroud of my daughter’s illness which envelops me in every other aspect of my life. It is such a relief for me to interact with other bloggers without that huge part of my actual identity coming into play at all. I feel like “me” again. And never would I suggest that my choice should be anybody else’s. We all need to use our platforms in the way that works best for us.

    Liked by 1 person

  49. marlowhitemw

    Journaling my feelings has helped me overcome all of life’s obstacles. I recommend journaling to all my friends and colleagues.

    Liked by 1 person

  50. Amber Green

    It’s so devastating to read their loss. It’s just not right for a mom to go through this pain.

    Liked by 1 person

  51. moosha23

    gosh, this made me cry…

    Liked by 1 person

  52. Shawn

    Sometimes there’s grief. And sometimes there’s just rage. But most often, there’s just dull, grey absence of strong feeling. All you get is a thin trickle of emotion, and sometimes not even that.

    Liked by 1 person

  53. dyule2014

    These story are so touching, sad and inspiring to continue with their life helping others.

    Thank you
    Donna

    Liked by 1 person

  54. peterflierl

    I received an e-mail on Friday last or over that weekend opening with “We are saddened to inform to inform you…..

    My heart stopped. I thought back to the Spring and the sudden unexpected death of a friend and colleague, Bill, age 55, too young. Not another 50 something lost…

    Then I read the rest of the note and gave a silent scream…OH, MY GOD…NO, it can’t be. This doesn’t happen today, but it did. Our friend of many years lost his wife, Andrea, age 37 plus 6 days as a result of “complications from childbirth…” their twin boys, premature, are doing well. Bobby is shell shocked. I had never met his wife. Her picture and portrait showed a gorgeous, beautiful, svelte young woman.

    Please pray for Andrea and Bobby.

    Liked by 1 person

  55. Nina May

    Grief is often a great force of inspiration, in my opinion. Some of the best things I ever thought or wrote were in the midst of great grief, from a lost loved one or from a lost piece of your life. When you feel like you have tons of feelings and nowhere to pour them, pen and paper will never let you down.

    Liked by 2 people

  56. jirasoles

    I started my blog to cope with my daughters battle with cancer however I felt I couldn’t publish my stuff.. It felt to personal.. But I have read other bloggers and it has helped .. It has made me see that unfortunately I’m not the only one having things happen to them that and I appreciate the happiness that comes our way.. I feel like if it’s not one thing it’s another and that’s a horrible feeling to feel… I’ve had a miscarriage myself and still hurt..The loss of a child no matter how old is just extremely painful.

    Liked by 1 person

  57. sulabha1649

    Writing is a natural catharsis of a grieving soul as the heavy fog of grief weighs down the heart. When I lost my beloved German Shepherd, Beethoven I was swept up in the darkest seas of sorrow. Writing my thoughts on paper eased the pain and brought me out of the throes of depression.

    Liked by 1 person

  58. Mad Men on the Move

    I commend these mothers for sharing their tragic stories. I began traveling because of losing my best friend, something I am writing about now. Blogging/ writing brings out emotions and memories that the heart holds within.

    Liked by 1 person

  59. erikakind

    Thanks for putting these personal stories together! There will be lots of people out there that will get hope in reading how these woman dealt with their loss and that nobody is alone with that kind of destiny!

    Liked by 1 person

  60. Jen Reid (Jen Spencer)

    Thank you so much for sharing. I have been writing a blog since we lost our darling boy, Eddie in April this year. He was only 3 months old and was a victim of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). I find it therapeutic to write but to also comforting to read other blogs by bereaved parents who are or have gone through a similar experience to me. There is a large community of us out there and this is a great way to bring us all together. My blog is http://www.lifeaftereddie.wordpress.com

    Liked by 1 person

  61. triciabertram

    Hello Michelle, just a note to thank you for mentioning my blog, Writing the Roads of Grief. Some have shared a little of their story with me, others positive comments and my stats have gone way up. This comes at a time when I’m struggling with a sense of futility so the feedback has been invaluable to me.
    With gratitude
    Tricia

    Like

  62. lensgirl53

    Bringing light and understanding to the pain of mental illness and suicide is my mission after the death of my son at lensgirl53.wordpress.com. I wirte to remember him and bring honor to his name and his life and to destigmatize the way he died.

    Like

  63. peterjfoster

    Every day I write in my Journal. I just write from my heart and find peace, understanding and company with my God. Wouldn’t be without it! Thanks for your Article on grief.

    Like

  64. walkerawhite

    Blogging for me is a very important avenue to exchange with others tragedies, life stories and inner heart dynamics that we can all share in and through these experiences heal, explore and rejuvenate each others grief and love. I have been deeply touched by this piece.

    Liked by 1 person

  65. Jessica Emilia

    I discovered blogging and truly harnessed it’s power for communicating all those complex (sometimes ugly, sometimes surprising) emotions after my first pregnancy loss and then after my second daughter died after a few hours of life. Reading the words of others that experienced that type of grief kept me alive. Today my blog serves as a record of how far i’ve come and it brings comfort to others actively grieving and reconciling their own struggles.
    It’s an amazing vehicle for exploring our emotions.

    Like

  66. TrezelleMorgan

    This was so hard to read!! I don’t talk much about my miscarriage on my blog but losing children can have a lasting effect on your life.

    Like

  67. Julie Mitchell

    Thank you for sharing these brave, beautiful blogs. Like many here, through writing I’ve found I’m not alone as I grieve a major loss. My blog is normally focused on my professional life, but this week I posted about my pain. http://coachnotes.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/learning-in-the-dark-grief-loss-and-other-taxing-teachers/

    Like

  68. A humble shadow

    Having used writing to process emotions that are less attractive or pleasant I thought about leaving a comment, but realised that whatever I wrote would be inferior considering the trauma and heartache these highlighted blogs are detailing
    So I feel the only thing I can rightfully say is that the authors of those blogs are beyond strong to not only survive the grief that has befallen them, but to also make public their feelings and experiences so that others in their situation can find help and support
    In the end only two words will do ‘Full respect’

    Like

  69. lauriewoodwardauthor

    There have been so many times in my life that writing got me through. I am so thankful that it has been a constant companion and true friend.

    Like

  70. hbusse

    Oh, hey, I guess I get to join the ranks of blogging about grief. My friend died last week. Shit. (And please read my bluntness in a tone of utter shock, as that’s how I feel in regards to this realization. It’s not crass or rude. Just a balloon between me and the world.)

    Like

  71. stealingnectar

    I am eager to read these blogs and share in community. I have a similar blog – Stealingnectar.com. My post from Aug 2013 (Swimsuit Palooza) is about losing my son at 17 weeks of pregnancy. http://stealingnectar.com/2013/08/22/swimsuit-palooza/. My latest post is an update one year later. (http://stealingnectar.com/2014/07/27/a-leftover-type-of-day/) Big hugs to all the moms and dads mourning our kids out there!

    Like

  72. jenngal77

    This brings such tears to my eyes. I am a journal writer to get my feelings out. Now I’ve decided to begin blogging for many reasons (especially Arthritis making it difficult to hold a pen for hours on end) and believe that sharing our stories of sadness or happiness can help us connect to those who feel as we do.

    Like

  73. kathleenduncan

    I began my blog after my twenty year old son was killed along with four friends in a car wreck near Amarillo last summer. My faith in Christ has helped me heal. http://www.kathleenduncan.wordpress.com

    Like

  74. meghanoc

    MIchelle, Thank you for including me in this piece. Writing has been incredibly therapeutic and so has reading other’s stories. Here are some other babyloss blogs that have traveled my journey with me.

    http://babylossmama.wordpress.com/

    http://lostboysandbearings.blogspot.com/

    http://mommyoftwinangels.wordpress.com/

    http://blog.tangerineowl.org/

    http://mytrueworth.org/

    http://inallthingsrejoice.wordpress.com/

    as well as this post:

    http://adventuresofalabornurse.wordpress.com/2014/07/25/when-theres-nothing-to-celebrate/

    And there are so many other inspiring blogs in these comments.

    Meghan

    Like

  75. dogkisses

    Thank you for sharing these blogs. It’s beautiful, I think, that blogging offers a uniquely compassionate community for people to share and connect with others through writing.

    Like

  76. Sunshinebright

    I feel for all these women who lost children. We women are a special lot, for sure. I lost my first grandchild, Jessica, to the ravages of diabetes. Her first child, named Daniel, named after my first husband, was stillborn. So, we all have tragedies in our lives. Writing does help – a great deal. It’s a catharsis of all the feelings that have been slushing around for a long time, or not for a long time. Thanks for bringing these women and their blogs to our attention, Michelle.

    Like

  77. kietdo38

    When my uncle, whose is also my adopted father, died some years ago, I felt a great loss in my life. And I often wrote to reduce the pain. I know what it means
    for the mothers who lost their childs. I hope that time and journal could help them move on with less sadness and suffering as they could recognize that sickness and death must be parts of our lives. We can try our best to make our loved ones safe but would never know why certain unexpected bad things would come to them.

    Like

  78. 3RueSleidan

    Grief finds its way into our lives when we least expect it. It lingers long past what we would prefer or what others assume. Like a veil that covers our faces, grief can hide its ugly head inside of us for way too long. Writing is a way out … back into the sunshine. For there is sunshine to come, even when the grief feels as though it will never leave us alone.

    Like

  79. florencestone

    I think blogging is like acting in a way, we can hide behind something, and express our feelings. Nice touch x

    Like

  80. briandstubbs

    Reblogged this on briandstubbs's Blog and commented:
    Though, I’ve never lost a human child, I understand grief… My condolences to the original writer of this blog. My situation, I did grieve for a functionally, happy, “united family setting” in my childhood. Mine was, traumatic and horrific, leaving me with serious complications of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors well into my adulthood. Read on, and may writing be part of your healing of your wounded heart, body, soul.

    Like

  81. trinityblaze2014

    Absolutely! Writing and speaking eases the soul so it may lift itself once again.

    Like

  82. tracybrinkmeyer

    Reblogged this on theladysgotclass and commented:
    I find that as we mourn the loss of a beloved person, pet, marriage or life event we learn from our own thoughts when reviewed and shared!

    Like

  83. pndrgn99

    My tears water the prayers I send to you from my heart.
    There are no words, only silence and tears.

    Like

  84. georgia0125

    When my father, whom I didn’t have a very strong relationship to but loved very much passed away last year, I felt a great loss! I was always daddy’s girl even though I didn’t see him very often or understand him very much. I didn’t cry very long but did crying while writing . Writing just always gave me a chance to sort my feelings out, deal with the loss and let it go. The week before my father died, I was feeling very strong back and chest pains, and I dreamt about my father’s death. This pains I was feeling where the exact pains that killed him. Thinking back it is amazing to see how I mentally prepared myself without knowing,but at the time writing it down was my way to understand what is happening and accept it. After is death I used to write little notes with my feelings, emotions,and thoughts down and I would hide them someplace my dad used to go, stay, visit or took me to.
    I guess writing it down makes one realize that something traumatizing did happen and that no matter how much you miss your person the memories will stay and you just have to let the very traumatizing moment go

    Liked by 1 person

  85. rosie2603

    I too am blogging because I have lost a child. russell was 28 and died in a work-related accident last summer. We started the blog Russellspostcards to help us and his friends get through the agony of losing someone so full of life. We have also done many other positive tributes which are all detailed on our Facebook page also called Russellspostcards and will be described in future blogs. We hope that in our own small way we can help to make death a less taboo subject. it really does help to talk. Talking helps us remember the good times and with the good times come laughs with the tears.

    Like

  86. Robyna

    Writing has been my release and my saviour. My darling son died at two weeks old by SIDS. It’s unfathomable that life can be torn away so soon after it is given, but it’s a reality for more families than you think. I keep his memory alive and chase his sunshine at http://chasinghissunshine.wordpress.com

    Like

  87. MryMac

    Is there a blog spot for widows?

    Like

    • Michelle W.

      There are many bloggers writing their way through the loss of a partner, yes. I don’t have any URLs to share off the top of my head, but a look at the grief, loss, or widowhoos topics in the Reader will turn some up.

      Like

  88. J Doe

    I’m just starting this type of process with my blog http://anintrovertsoutlet.wordpress.com Though mine isn’t about loosing a child I had, it’s about the mourning the child I can’t. In some ways mourning these different losses are very similar.

    Like

  89. ddhuhn

    Hearts on paper…

    Like

  90. T

    Thank you so much for so beautifully honoring those of us who use this platform to mourn our children and to process our losses. You did a beautiful job with this, Michelle. Thank you a million times over.

    Like

  91. Helen Peacock

    This is very helpful. You are doing a great job and helping others. Excellent!

    Like

  92. hikerg1rl

    Thank you for this post. I have found writing to produce healing for different types of grief, especially the loss of my mom a few years ago.

    Like

  93. sisterhopeblog

    Wow! This is beautiful, I too have experienced such a loss, and have recently turned to blogging to find a way to release the pain I feel in my heart… I am slowly finding my voice. Thank you!!!

    Like

  94. supremecoach

    As a poet, I have always sought refuge in my writings at times of grief and low moods. Thank you for this post. You have allowed more bloggers express their feelings. I share the grief of all grieving mums and hope that expressing themselves through their blogs will bring succour and greater relief.

    Like

  95. Sana

    My first blog published today has been worded out of grief! Lost a Pet.

    Like

  96. thenewsherlockholmes

    Writing through pain is sometimes the best way to express yourself. I wrote a lot of poetry after my brother in law committed suicide, leaving my sister and their one and a half year old daughter. We all think differently in these kinds of traumatic situations and don’t always feel that we can speak to the people around us. It’s then that writing because such a powerful vehicle for expressing your true feelings. Well done to all of these parents for powering through their painful situations!

    Like

  97. sdalton1989

    I just lost my daughter at 2 months old to SIDS just 4 weeks ago. Starting this blog and being able to write has been amazing for helping me heal! tutusoon.wordpress.com

    Like

  98. branditrent3

    Writing has really helped my journey through losing my son. It’s a way to get out your feelings that you can’t seem to express out loud. Grief is such a hard process and it magnifies after the loss of a child.

    Like

  99. wordwithmindy

    My beautiful son, Tommy, was killed in a horrific and tragic school bus accident when he was 9 yrs old. In the immediate years after, I wrote many poems and writings in an effort to release some of the deep, overwhelming grief. Though it has been many years ago, there are specific days each year that I still dedicate my blog to my beautiful boy and my feelings of grief. I applaud each of these ladies for grieving publicly, sharing their experiences and feelings with those who are grieving themselves, or who would like some understanding of what it is like to loose a beloved child. Through reading their words, many will find affirmation in their own grief – which is essential for healing – in knowing they are not alone in the unimaginable experience of loosing a child, and will find a measure of healing in sharing experiences.

    Like

  100. Shella De Guzman

    I can totally relate. Writing has been my outlet. A year ago i was in total wreck until I wrote all the pains and angst away. One could write the saddest lines when broken.

    Like

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 17,985,169 other followers

%d bloggers like this: